Bruce and Carol Rodda | Biblical Counselors
Bruce and Carol have a passion for helping couples grow and succeed in marriage. In their 38 years of marriage, they have attended many seminars and read dozens of books to grow their own relationship. They have also been pre-marriage and marriage mentors for many couples. Bruce and Carol are huge believers in setting goals together, and are in the process of working towards Bruce getting a counseling degree in which marriage and family will be a strong emphasis. Bruce has a Bachelor of Sacred Literature Degree from Northwest College of the Bible. He served in ministry positions for 18 years. He holds a Master’s Degree in Business. He worked in the Call Center industry and private consulting for 16 years. Bruce and Carol have a son and daughter. Both have been married for 7 years. They also have three grandchildren.
Bruce and Carol are available to share their years of marriage experience and the principles of scripture with members of The Mission Church. You can contact them through the weekly Connection Card or by emailing them at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Two Become One
By: Bruce Rodda
I know a man who is about to mark a one year anniversary. Now he has been married for over 30 years, but late this month he will pass the one year anniversary of his wife’s surgery. The surgery was to be routine but there were complications. For the past year she can barely walk, has difficulty speaking, is incontinent often, and, most of the time, she has the mental functioning of a toddler. He is glad his wife is still alive, and while there is life there is hope. Yet in some ways this is worse than death. They are physically together most of the time, but mentally and emotionally he is alone. She is still present in body, but most of what made her his partner in life is missing. And he grieves deeply over that loss.
Several people have hinted that maybe it is time to move on. He was telling me last week that he would never do that. He is not a practicing Christian and so I was curious about why he was so committed. His reason, “She believed in us.” He went on to say that this was his second marriage. He came out of his first marriage mentally battered and destroyed. His confidence as a husband was shot. They struck up a friendship. And long before he was ever ready to consider marriage again, “She believed in us.” I know enough of his story to know that their marriage was never easy, and the last 10 years have been tough. But there is a glue that holds them together. He and she had become us.
This reminds me of what Paul says in Ephesians 5:31-32. “As the Scriptures say, ‘A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.” Marriage at its core is a process of two becoming one. You and I become us, and in that oneness we illustrate the oneness between Christ and the Church.
Perhaps today is a good day to remind each other that when you were married, something new and beautiful was created, us. And no matter if that was 30 days ago or 30 years ago, you still believe in us. Maybe pull each other close, look into each other’s eyes and say together, “I believe in us.”